The essence of friendship

The essence of friendship

Do you enjoy your friendships?...For sure – YES!...But please recollect when you've met your friends recently?...and called up?...and sent e-mail?...Ages and ages ago…


Contemporary life, with its tight schedules and constant lack of time and overloads, just do not give us FREE time for pleasant and interesting relations and meetings…They say: "Friends are thieves of time"…Work and family are considered to be the crucial values of a person's life…These are "MUSTS"…We must and we DO devote our life-time to the things…


Undoubtedly, there is "friendship" in the hot-list of human-life values…But please agree friendship is not the MUST…And this is really the most valuable and important aspect of friendship – FREEDOM…We are FREE here…free to choose time to get into touch with friends…free to choose place where we would love to be with them…free to choose way of spending time…and the best matter of friendship is freedom to be in the company of another person…In SUCH life we need it…We need take a breathe…Freedom…Friendship…

Who are the people whose company do we like sharing ? 
Actually, what most people call their "circle of friends" more closely resembles "a triangle".


The base of the triangle – acquaintances. It is pleasant to be in an Acquaintance's company – he/she gives you sincere cordiality and feeds you with admiration and even more better if it is interesting – there is no need to find any another amusements any more…Well…the acquaintances are PLEASANT if it's the best case and they are NEEDFUL in the worst (if you're upset, they'll cheer you up, low self-confidence – they'll help you to get assertiveness, would like to have fun – you'll get it). 


Then there are "core friends" in the middle. These we know by first name, and we see them somewhat regularly. The essence of the friendships is pleasant USE – expressing our views, reviving spirits, getting support. It's easy to strike up the friendship when your souls are in perfect harmony. "We DO understand each other so easily!"- and you can feel the real soul-mate in the person…


As well here are our Companion-in-arms – the people with whom we have common cause who we NEED for business affairs…probably this is the most worth friends' group…Friendship is  luxury of human intercourse…but what is our reality, what the world where do we live in??? A lot of obligations to be fulfilled, a lot of works to be done SO it's very valuable and useful if we derive support and help from the friendships to deal with all this inevitable burden…Thank you, our Companions… 

 
At the top of the triangle are intimate friends. These people are closely involved in our lives, and their names are likely engraved on our hearts. Mostly there is ONLY intimate friend in our lives – the BEST friend – as the BEST concerns the unique things only. Here we feel FREE open all our heart sincerely and easily…and we feel FREE to turn to the friend in our hour of need…We are proud of having such friend…Best friend it's who rescues when it's extremely necessary…Savior…Asylum…


So…Please think it over…Who needs friendship most of all?...

Well…Friendship is possible and very precious part of a self-confident and strong people's life…but they do not need friendship and friends seriously.
Learn how to be the Friend…Learn how to be needful and reliable – in such a way you'll be able to help your friends…BUT…from the other hand – you should grow, work for improving yourself so you have need in friends less and less…

You must outlast longing for friendship…as every another weakness.
For sure…there are Childhood and Youth when a person do really NEED friendship…all the young stick together: they feel freer to express themselves, easier to defend…but you should grow up and stand on your own feet…to get STRONG…to live STRONGLY and FREE.