Relationships with ex
One more love affair is over, but its still not the reason to quit the relationships of any kind with your ex. You should only find out what kind of the relationship it could possibly be.
First of all make sure that theres no love left neither from yours nor from his side. Do you want to start it all over again, try to fix or to avoid the mistakes? Do you think of him over and over again, remembering only the good moments? Probably you still cry about him, feel jealous to his new girlfriend, especially if they look such a nice couple. When you both meet you feel such a hysteric joyfulness which turns to be only frustration after you part. You keep telling everyone even your best friends that its over. Your are afraid to confess even to yourself that you are seeking for a way to get him back all the time. You arent yourself anymore, youve given up everything thats been important and interesting to you before. Well this is the case when there cant be any relationships with an ex although it may seem to be exactly what you want.
While you are still so obsessed any kind of communication with him will only hurt and can even turn to some kind of a sick addiction. Try to keep away by any means, resist those emotions, find a new, positive direction for that self-destroying energy.
But sometimes when you declare that love is gone and its over you really mean it. You may still hang out and have very good time together. There are no more holding hands, counting stars, tender kisses and etc, but who cares! Hes such a funny guy and such an understanding person. You can call him anytime, tell him all your troubles and get a very wise advice. Hes got a new girl youre only glad for him because hes too good to stay alone. Well you both have refuted the old saying that the friendship between a man and a woman cant exist.
Another scenario for the relationships with an ex is, on the opposite, when theres left nothing but sex. No emotions, but good sex, too good to give it up easily. You almost dont go out together but its OK to spend a couple of day at yours or his place. You arent much interested in whats happening in his life, you dont care how and with whom he passes his time, but when you want to get your bit of pleasure you just call and ask. And if hes busy or says that he has problem you say that youll call next time when itll be more convenient. One day he will probably tell you that hes got a new girl and this time its serious. Well probably this news wont be very pleasant but youll forget about in a day and find yourself a new source of pleasure.
One more type of those relationships with an ex is when an ex stays... just an ex. You quitted your love affair without fights and quarrels, you parted with each other as nicely as anyone could ever do, you promised to stay friends. Probably you have felt sad for a while and cried a few tears, but now you clearly see that it wasnt that love affair of a live and that theres nothing to regret about. You dont want to neither have sex with him nor tell him your private secrets. Maybe once he will invite you on a cup of coffee, and youll have one of those nice, friendly talks about nothing which actually mean nothing, than youll go each in your own direction and than youll be sending each other couple of greeting cards a year. Well probably the situation can develop in a different way and youll become true friend, but theres not much possibility.
So every time you leave you may of course leave a ruined battlefield behind you, tear up with your past and start one more new life by your claims. But is everything you leave behind always so awful? Maybe itll be better to keep in touch with your ex because who knows what you may need from him one day except love.